Healing, unlearning, reflections, emotional truth, what life is teaching me now
A house with a room full of stuff ready to go in the bin, a pool just for the family, and gifts that took hours to unwrap for a toddler. I remembered that Christmas. Somehow I ended up starring in this show I didn’t even realise I was part of. I just had to smile […]
Merry Christmas to Me, Merry Christmas to You Read More »
Freedom isn’t a lifestyle you perform.It’s what’s left when you stop trying to prove you have it. Tuesday morning, after yoga. My body felt soft and open.My mind — already tightening. At 11:30, the LinkedIn post I’d scheduled popped up.That was my cue to perform my new role:the “free person” sharing her journey once a
The Practical Art of Letting Go: Performing Freedom Read More »
A quiet city, a wise woman, and the reminder that purpose isn’t something to perform. Kyoto hums in hush tones.No motorbikes, just bicycles gliding by, even the Mama-chari bikes carrying two kids move like they’ve got nowhere to rush. The air is soft.The water, impossibly clear. I caught myself wondering what invisible care kept it
🕊️ The Day Jane Goodall and Kyoto Both Told Me to Slow Down Read More »
Dad storms in under the roasting Taipei sun:“Our apartment is on fire!!” 🔥🏃♂️ Me: WTF?? We rush out.I’m calling Mum — 20 times, no answer.Brain racing: real? fake news? catastrophic? Arrive… it’s the building across the road. Mum? Later strolls in from her Tai Chi party, cheerful, blissfully unaware.Me? Still sweating in yoga gear, wondering
The Day My Apartment Wasn’t on Fire Read More »
I’ve found inner peace by staring at my toes. Somehow it worked better than meditation. Yesterday I almost lost my whole day to an online course.One video turned into three, three into hours… and by the time I noticed, the entire first layer of a butter biscuit tin, a gift from my cousin in Hong
What I Learned About Calm From 20 Minutes With My Feet Read More »
I almost said yes to a comfortable pay-check.My chest said no. A few weeks ago, I was on a call about engineering work I know inside out.Safe. Familiar. Well-paid. But as the conversation went on, I felt it — that old tightness in my chest. A flashback to projects where I wasn’t sure if I
Turning Down Easy Money: Staying True to My Priorities Read More »
But that’s not the part I love most. When we first started, she wasn’t into sport. She didn’t think of herself as “strong.” Her line was always: “I’m just not strong enough.” What I saw was different.It was years of habit — posture, little patterns, just not knowing how to use her body. So we
In seven months, my 72-year-old mum doubled her strength Read More »
I was desperate looking for a photo of Mum when she visited me in Christchurch. I can still see her in my mind: sitting in the little Japanese garden outside this window, her hands shielding her head from the New Zealand sun, the light cutting across her face. But the photo itself? Gone. 2019 was
You Can Honour Your Parents Without Living Like Them Read More »
I once spent six hours at 3 a.m. deciding whether to buy a $15 microphone.Last week, I bought a $325 ticket to Kyoto in twenty minutes — without blinking.Same person. Totally different brain. Here’s what changed — and how I realised fear isn’t the problem until it’s steering me away from what matters. Before I
How I Stopped Overthinking the Things That Matter Read More »
A letter to my younger Asian immigrant self If I could start over again as an Asian immigrant in the Western workplace,I’d do three things differently: – 🔧 Learn to change a car tire– 🗣️ Speak the language that gets you seen — not just the one that keeps you safe– 🙅♀️ And please… don’t
Don’t Be a Grandmum at Work Read More »
